last night we had the big talk. i thought it wouldn't happen until later this weekend. going to bed, i was still just so frustrated over the day i've had that i wanted to resolved our relationship issues on the spot though i didn't say that. i thought i wouldn't say my opinions on things too much so that the other person could make a pure decision, free of my influence. i listened to what they had to say and couldn't help but voice my comments and concerns. i wanted her to bring things to the table and then we'd negotiate. turns out that there wasn't really anything to negotiate. i pretty much agreed and accepted what they brought to the table. i think we're ok now. i think we're moving out of my mom's house and trying to start things over again. i don't know how things will develop so i can't say how things will be in the future. 1 month at a time perhaps with monthly checkups. like i said, the first 10 years are the hardest.